It is interesting (and also horrifying) to note that certain traditions are still implied during this day and age. One that has similarity in all races is the arranged marriage through families, with or without the children’s consents.
I’m not such a big fan of arranged marriage when it involved coercion and force, to be frank. Some may accept it as filial duty, but it seems somewhat wrong to force such union and lifetime commitment upon those who do not wish for it. And the complications that arise are usually not pretty. One that I’d encountered recently was a bride who ran away on the day of the wedding. This is one case where she was called back home suddenly one day and was put through an engagement without any notice from the parents or future in – laws. Apparently the parents loved each others’ children. Wow. Oi, I wonder where is the respect for this poor bride – to – be? And who’s the one getting engaged / married here, I wonder.
Anyway, the engagement proceeded and with the wedding date looming, she was forced to go along with the preparation since she did not dare to protest and call off the engagement. Plus point, the couple didn’t seem to be able to strike up a comfortable relationship. So where is this leading to?
Thanks to our caring society that sniffs gossips miles away, breaking off engagement is not as simple as it seems, what more with your parents breathing fire. Bonus point, when the couple is highly – educated, a trophy wedding it is.
My sincere condolences to such weddings.
I’m not such a big fan of arranged marriage when it involved coercion and force, to be frank. Some may accept it as filial duty, but it seems somewhat wrong to force such union and lifetime commitment upon those who do not wish for it. And the complications that arise are usually not pretty. One that I’d encountered recently was a bride who ran away on the day of the wedding. This is one case where she was called back home suddenly one day and was put through an engagement without any notice from the parents or future in – laws. Apparently the parents loved each others’ children. Wow. Oi, I wonder where is the respect for this poor bride – to – be? And who’s the one getting engaged / married here, I wonder.
Anyway, the engagement proceeded and with the wedding date looming, she was forced to go along with the preparation since she did not dare to protest and call off the engagement. Plus point, the couple didn’t seem to be able to strike up a comfortable relationship. So where is this leading to?
Thanks to our caring society that sniffs gossips miles away, breaking off engagement is not as simple as it seems, what more with your parents breathing fire. Bonus point, when the couple is highly – educated, a trophy wedding it is.
My sincere condolences to such weddings.
Hi! It's sad to make that kind of arrangement and I dont think there are such thing as 'Cinta Selepas Kahwin' for now a days right? LOL!....
ReplyDeleteBy the way, love your blog layout... it's very nice!
Keep writing.... :)
I'm half - half on Cinta Selepas Kahwin... Personally, I don't like it, to sleep with a stranger without first knowing each other... Almost like a consented rape =p On the other hand, if you're lucky to get a mature MAN (not guy), I think there's still chance of a better married life.
ReplyDeleteAnd thanks, I love the lay out too. It took 6 experimental lay - outs to decide the one that suits my liking the most, and without technical problems.